Updated: Nov 14, 2021
I’m sharing random topics about motherhood, quarantining with my kids, achieving goals, and overcoming personal struggles.
If you’re a mother who wants to start a business, publish a book, go back to school, write a blog, launch a podcast, or do something else uplifting, do it. Do it afraid. Pray your way through it. Don’t worry about the naysayers. It is possible to make your dreams come true as a mother. Although you need to plan, prioritize, and make sacrifices, you don’t need to feel trap or ignore your passions. Don’t let other people’s opinions stop you.
People have underestimated and doubted but it doesn’t stop me from achieving goals. There is a possibility that I might fail. There is a possibility that people won’t like my work or support my business, but I don’t let that hinder me. No matter what anybody says, I’m still going to pursue my passions and fulfill my godly purpose. And you should too.
As a mother, you have an opportunity to train and raise your children in a good home. You have an opportunity to break bad habits, leave a legacy, and earn generational wealth. Motherhood is your ministry. If achieving a goal adds value to your family, then make that goal happen.
People often assume I have it easy. I have a good life because I aim to make good choices. I still go through suffering, make mistakes, and try to avoid sin, I pray my way through it all. I lean on the Lord to fight my battles. My life isn’t perfect, but I am blessed. I aim for excellence, but I don’t walk around thinking I’m better than anyone.
I go through suffering and struggle with life just like anybody else. I’m a single mother (separated), raising my kids and building a business. I do it all with little help. It took time to rise and heal from the things I went through. I was blamed for my marriage failing. I was disrespected and mistreated. Stories were twisted to make me look like I was a bad wife. Women gossiped about my marriage. There were lies shared between people who don’t know me personally. And there are people who know me personally, telling things I shared in secret. It distracted me and bothered me at times, but eventually, I let it go. The lies and gossip didn’t stop my drive. You need to let people think what they want to think about you.
I experienced complications during my pregnancies. Getting pregnant was a struggle. And when I finally did, I had a pregnancy loss at five months. The following year, I gave birth to my daughter. She was born 28 weeks early and spent 3 months in NICU. Thankfully, she did not have any serious health or developmental issues. And during my last pregnancy, I got shots every week to avoid another preterm birth.
My son was born at 36 weeks, and he was very healthy. My children's father and I separated during my pregnancy with my son. Stress contributed to the complications, and my body couldn't handle the first and second pregnancies. I had anxiety all the time. My job was stressful, and I didn't stay off my feet. I did too much. During my last pregnancy, I practiced a lot of self-care. I took care of my body by eating well and working out. My environment was not as stressful as it had been in the previous pregnancies.
The day my son and I came home from the hospital, everything changed. At some point,
I had to make wise choices to provide a better life for all three of us. I do what I do professionally because I’m grateful for my kids. Having degrees, being an entrepreneur, author, and blogger doesn’t mean I have an easy life, it just means I work hard at making my goals happen.
Motherhood is challenging, especially when you are doing it alone. It can be discouraging when people try to bring you down and try to make you feel like you’re failing. Over the past years, I’ve learned to be unbothered. I learned how to maintain a calm life while going through the storm. It’s not always easy but I had to change my state of mind and shift relationships. My kids motivate me to stay on track and accomplish my goals. I work hard to provide a good life for them. I stay focused, keep to myself, mind my business, and do what I need to do. They grew up so fast year. My daughter is in kindergarten and my son is in Head Start. I'm excited to see them excel.
Every morning, my son brings his pillow and blanket into my room, and wakes me up to watch the news. My daughter comes into my room to make sure I’m awake and ready to start the day. They are so young, yet they know how to comfort and motivate me. It’s a reminder that I’m teaching them right. It’s a reminder that I’m instilling good values. It’s a reminder that we are a healthy and loving little family living. And it’s confirmation that we will continue to overcome difficult situations.
During this pandemic, my kids kept me busy. We were able to spend our free time doing fun stuff. They taught me a lot about myself. I learned a lot about them, and we are around each other every single day. They empowered me to be overcome insecurities and challenged me to make bold moves. I share all of this to show you that you can and will overcome you situation. Be empowered about your roles as a mother and businesswoman. If you're a wife and you're battling with something, reach out to someone who will give you biblical wisdom. You don’t have to let your struggles keep you from reaching your goals. You can overcome it. I’m living proof.